So today is a special day since I'm so fire-up to update
more.If you are facing the same problems with me, which is why we can't bring
changes towards ourself. I suggest you to read this post as I just Ctrl C and
Ctrl V from this website http://www.lifehack.org/ .Enjoy your reading!
Misalignment Of
Actions And Goals
The disconnect between your actions and goals not only
prevents you from achieving your goals but could also lead you down the path of
wasting precious time and effort trying to achieving something that you
couldn’t care less about. This disconnect can manifest itself in two ways:
1. The right actions
towards the wrong goal:
Have you ever found yourself setting a goal based on what
others deem to be important as opposed to what you personally value, enjoy and
find fulfilling? Unfortunately, if the goal isn’t something that you personally
place value on, then even taking the right actions towards it is rarely
successful. It usually results in a conflict between what you really want to
do, versus what you think you have to do – this conflict will leave you feeling
demotivated and will pull you into a cycle of procrastination. If your goals
comes from a ‘have to or should do’ – instead of a ‘want to’ – those are
warning bells there already!
2. The wrong actions
towards the right goal:
The process of assigning actions to specific goals can be
influenced by a wide range of factors that you need to be aware of. Perhaps you
don’t have enough information on what the right steps to take may be? Perhaps
you’re afraid of the changes that may result from the actions? Alternatively,
you may not be confident enough in your ability to carry out the necessary
actions, or may even be unwilling to invest the effort into making a necessary
change and therefore, either consciously or subconsciously, you end up
prioritizing actions that are easy but not helpful to your goal.
My advice: Simply having your heart in the right place won’t
get you success. Likewise, doing all the right things halfheartedly isn’t
likely to do you much good. In order to achieve your goals you need to take the
right actions with the right attitude. The only way you can achieve that is by
making sure you’ve chosen goals that are inline with your personal values, as
well as by selecting (and pursuing) actions based on their importance to your
goal, as opposed to how easy/convenient they may be. Often, this requires us to
be more honest with ourselves, even if we don’t like what we hear.
Insufficient Desire
To Achieve Specific Goals
It may be a painful (and sometimes a scary, life-altering)
realization to make, but if you find yourself unable to take action towards a
goal, it’s quite possible that your desire to achieve the goal simply isn’t
enough to motivate you into action! We’ve all heard/read about people who defy
the odds to achieve their dreams; the reason that they were able to do so was
that they were motivated enough by the end result to make a massive effort!
The sooner you’re honest with yourself about what you really
want, the less time you’ll waste trying to achieve something that will never
make you happy. As the saying goes, “you can never get enough of what you don’t
really want” (Eric Hoffer); in other words, until you acknowledge your real
desires, you’ll keep pursing many different paths to no avail – nothing will
ever seem fulfilling/motivating enough.
So how can you tell just how much you really want to achieve
your goals? If you identify with some of the points below, you may want to
re-assess your goals:
When an opportunity
to cut corners presents itself, you take it.
If you really want to learn a new language for example, you
would accept the challenges and invest in the benefits of delayed
gratification, rather than cutting corners and seeking quick, short term
solutions with immediate, and strictly short-term gratification such as only
learning a couple of words that you know you’ll need.
When things get
difficult and require more effort, you give up.
For example, if your goal is to learn more about running
your own business, but you can’t bring yourself to read any books on the topic
or to attend relevant seminars. You only find the energy and motivation to take
action on the easy things.
When a situation
becomes uncomfortable, you always look for a more convenient way out of it.
For example, if your goal is to work out more frequently but
you can’t increase your weekly exercise hours because you’re not willing to
experiment with different, potentially more effective forms of exercise. There
is no cookie cutter to achieving your goals, you need to find the right recipe
for you if the one you currently have tastes bad!
You don’t re-adjust
your plan
For example, if your goal is to wake up at 7am each day, but
the next day, you hit the ‘snooze’ button. What most people do is give up after
trying a few times. Instead of re-adjusting the plan until it works – which is
what is often needed – most people won’t get it right the first time.
My advice: It’s important to differentiate between the
quantitative focus of your goals (being more financially secure, etc.) and the
qualitative experience that you seek to achieve from them. If you don’t
acknowledge the real WHY behind your goals, you won’t feel motivated enough to
stick with them. Find a WHY that is important enough to act as your
metaphorical water-skis – it should launch you forward and keep you going even
when you’re struggling to stay up! Once you have found your WHY – the plan to
get there is much easier!
Are You Ready To Be
Honest With Yourself?
If you identify with some of the issues mentioned above,
don’t despair! The first step to solving a problem is diagnosing it correctly
in order to fix it and learn from it. If goals were so easy to achieve, they
wouldn’t be called goals, but rather “to-dos” – achieving them isn’t going to
be easy, but if they’re the right goals for you, you can count on the effort
being completely worth it!
So guys don forget to read my post which is before this post. The title is Confession. Read it and enjoy. Hope you guys who is kindly enough to visit this blog, always in a pink of health. Pray for my SPM 2017. Thank you!
